What’s What Wednesday: Self-Regulation
This week Sunshine State Counseling Center is focusing on helping parents understand how to guide their young children through Self-Regulation. Help your child develop self-regulation through talking about feelings and role-modeling.
Self-Regulation is the ability to understand your own behavior and have the ability to manage your reactions to feelings and things happening around you.
Some examples of this would include being able to:
- Control impulses
- Focuses on a task
- Learn behavior that helps you get along with other people
Self-Regulation is important because it will allow your child to develop socially and personally. As your child gets older, self-regulation will help them learn at school, become more independent, manage stress, make friends and behave in socially accepted ways.
The best way to help your child learn is by providing support and guidance when they need it.
- Help your child find appropriate ways to deal with strong emotions. Say things like “It okay, I can help you if you like” and “Let’s relax”.
- When your child experiences a strong feeling encourage them to try to name what they are feeling and what may have caused it. Talking about these emotions may help in preparing for future experiences.
- Try to guide your child through alternatives to their behavior. For example, “Did you slam the door because you were overwhelmed? What else could you have done to get the anger out?”
Consider seeking a professional if you are worried about your child’s behavior or if you are having trouble guiding them as they get older.